Mask no difficulties, mistakes, failures. Claim no easy victories. Party directive With lies you will go far, but not back again.
Never forget, someone who will lie in front of you will lie to you. You may have gotten hold of the wrong half. Worse than telling a lie is spending the rest of your life staying true to a lie.
Honesty is appreciated. Trust is gained. Loyalty is returned. Needham Lying often gives us short-term advantages and lies that remain undiscovered as most do may provide short-term benefits.
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Every undiscovered lie, even seemingly small ones, are landmine capable of destroying trust. Trust is the glue of life. Washington could not lie. Many lies are false statements but half-truths, distortions, concealment, insincerity, exaggerations and baseless assertions intended to deceive or mislead are also lies equally damaging to trust. Mary Kay Ash The truth is the only thing worth having, and, in a civilized life, like ours, where so many risks are removed, facing it is almost the only courageous thing left to do.
That is the true spirit of Christ. What if your hearers do not like it? That is their affair. Does the doctor worry about the particular taste of the patient when he wishes to cure him? What if the medicine be bitter, provided it cures? Integrity without knowledge is weak and useless, and knowledge without integrity is dangerous and dreadful. Samuel Johnson — There are three kinds of lies: lies, damned lies and statistics.
William Shakespeare, Hamlet.
When parents lie to their children they are hurting them deeply.
Let us economize it. But every time we tell a lie, the thing that we fear grows stronger. For we would consider the contrary of what the liar said to be certain. But the opposite of truth has a hundred thousand faces and an infinite field. When a man has so far corrupted and prostituted the chastity of his mind as to subscribe his professional belief to things he does not believe he has prepared himself for the commission of every other crime.
They would rather defend their dishonesty on the grounds that it might hurt others. Therefore, having rationalized their phoniness into nobility, they settle for superficial relationships. You develop it. Others see it in you. To me, those are traditional values. Ellen DeGeneres The foundation stones for a balanced success are honesty, character, integrity, faith, love and loyalty. Michelle Obama Goodness is about character — integrity, honesty, kindness, generosity, moral courage, and the like.
More than anything else, it is about how we treat other people.
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Waylon Jennings It is inaccurate to say that I hate everything. I am strongly in favor of common sense, common honesty, and common decency. This makes me forever ineligible for public office. It is discouraging how many people are shocked by honesty and how few by deceit.
Noel Coward Honesty is the highest form of intimacy. TRUST The chief lesson I have learned in a long life is that the only way you can make a man trustworthy is to trust him; and the surest way to make him untrustworthy is to distrust him and show your distrust. Stimson Earn trust, earn trust, earn trust. Then you can worry about the rest. It must be built into the corporate culture. It brings out the very best in people. You hold my hand. But if you hold my hand, I know for sure that no matter what happens, you will never let my hand go. So hold the hand of the person whom you love rather than expecting them to hold yours.
It is as easily destroyed by suspicion as by proof.
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Washington You cannot stop trusting people in life but I have learned to be a little bit careful. The way to make people trust-worthy is to trust them.
Accuracy builds credibility. Jim Rohn Reject all that is fake — fake friends, fake emotions, fake ambitions. Reject pretenses, deceptions and every other form of dishonesty. Insist on and give nothing less than truth, sincerity and candor. Lying destroys it. When you lie to someone, even once, trust is replaced by suspicion and suspicion destroys trust To be trusted, one has to be trustworthy. Trustworthiness, however, is a more complex concept than most people realize. It embodies four separate virtues: integrity, honesty, promise-keeping and loyalty.
A failure in any one of these areas will prevent or destroy trust. Integrity refers to moral wholeness, a consistency between words, acts and beliefs. People with integrity earn our trust because they can be counted on to put ethical principles over integrity and do what they believe is right and what they say they will do even when it may cost more than they want to pay. People of integrity put their honor above social, financial and career considerations.
People earn our trust by being scrupulously honest, by being truthful and sincere. Trustworthy people also keep their promises and, in relationships justifying expectations of loyalty, they demonstrate their commitment to our well-being by being forthright and candid. This can be tricky when a person has conflicting loyalties, but close friendships and many business relationships create an expectation that our friend or business associate will affirmatively volunteer information we need or want to know to protect ourselves e.
We build trust like we build a tower, stone by stone. What we often forget is that these towers, no matter how old or how tall, can be easily toppled. One almost-certain way to run into heartache is to start dating one part or both parts! You are offering this person physical intimacy, emotional intimacy, or both; take responsibility for that. Your partners are human beings, not commodities; if you want partners who will treat you well, consider your feelings, and behave with compassion and respect, you need to treat them well, consider their feelings, and behave with compassion and respect yourself.
Often, people may fall into the trap of believing that if some need is not being met in a relationship, the solution is to meet that need by seeking another relationship. Many people believe that communication is Rule 1 in a polyamorous relationship. Often, a relationship may fail if the people involved in that relationship try to force it to fit some predefined set of conditions, rather than allowing the relationship to grow in whatever direction is natural. But this can happen in one-on-one relationships as well. Nothing exists in a vacuum. Each relationship can and will exert an influence on the others.
This happens most often in people seeking to create an intentional, equilateral relationship involving three or four people. The dangers here are twofold. First, it can be suffocating to have no space of your own, to always be surrounded by other people. This is normal and healthy. This most often happens in situations where one partner is polyamorous by nature and the other is monogamous. If you see those other partners as competitors, it becomes easy to dehumanize them, and the impulse is to vilify and distrust them.
This tends to cause a great deal of stress on your relationship with your lover; it also tends to cause you to go crazy. It also helps you to establish healthy, happy relationships with them. If, that is, they want a healthy relationship with you. Not everyone is a good person, and not everyone is perfect, and not everyone makes an ideal match for your lover. Often, we may want to do things that make our partner happy, even if we know better or if we have to sacrifice our own happiness to get there.
This usually works in the short run, and usually causes pain and grief in the long run. If you find something completely unacceptable, say so! We are inherently irrational beings. This is a part of the nature of man. This is not necessarily bad; love is not rational.
Nor is jealousy. Remember that you are not always rational, either. Do not attack, browbeat, or berate your partner for behaving emotionally; do not expect that your partner will always act in accordance with reason and logic. If your partner is acting irrationally, you must still be compassionate and respectful—even if you disagree with things your partner says or does!
Even positive feelings, such as love or new relationship energy, can cause your partner to behave irrationally. Try to understand what your partner is feeling, and why, when you address any problems this behavior may bring up. Develop good communication and conflict resolution skills. This one is obvious, really, but it bears repeating. A relationship is not doomed until the people in it stop talking to each other and start breaking dishes instead. Talk to your partner. All the time. Partners should include one another in life-altering decisions.
Talk to all your partners. This never works. Information that passes through an intermediary never quite gets to its destination without getting mangled. If you need to talk to someone, go directly to that person. Never trust that what one partner says about what another partner said is entirely accurate even if no skewing was intended. Go to the source and get confirmation.
There is no such thing as instant polyamory. Try letting things grow naturally, and build something lasting instead. Polyamorous relationships are not different in kind from monogamous relationships, and the beginnings of any relationship are fraught with peril.